How to Love Your Self and Your Neighbour
And why this would make your world an amazing place to live.
Some people need a lifetime to start cleaning their mind from hatred and negative thoughts.
Perhaps you didn’t get it so I’ll repeat it:
“…a lifetime to start cleaning their mind…”
Try with your fingers, count up to 50. Slowly.
50 years are:
600 months ~ 2.608 weeks ~ 18.250 days ~ 438.000 hours ~26.280.000 minutes.
50 are the years some people spent hating themselves and doing themselves all the harm they could.
All the mental and the body pain they were able to cause themselves day in day out. Although they are not to blame or they should feel guilty.
That’s why starting to love your self will make a world of difference.
You have to start from scratch.
Some good night’s sleep, starting with proper meals, and a bit of exercise will do wonders, it’ll help but I’m sorry: it’s not enough. It takes more practice.
The good news is: it’s all in your hands. You don’t need anybody else but your self to tell you what to do and what not.
If you’re lucky or your time has come to heal and change, a very special friend might support you and be there when you feel you can’t take it anymore.
That’s how you do it, starting with the 3 key steps.
#1 Stop criticizing your self.
When you hear the words falling from your lips and you notice you are saying something like: “Oh, you always do the same shitty thing, you’re stup….” halt immediately and turn the sentence into a more constructive one like: “I want to be more present to avoid making that mistake again.” No kidding around. I’m not joking. If you think it’s nonsense it’s perfectly fine, it’s up to you to continue living in hell or keep on reading.
#2 Stop judging your self.
Start now to accept who you are, what you do, your whole body and everything makes you, YOU! Love your self. You spent too much time creating painful experiences for your self. Just ask yourself whether it’s time to change or to shrug your shoulders.
“It’s not easy and it takes time.” Did I mention it was going to be easy or you could do it overnight? I didn’t. But let me ask you something:
“Where did all the bad things you did to yourself lead you so far? What successful difficulty did you overcome thanks to the hatred towards yourself? How painful your life has been so far because you cannot accept yourself completely? How many days went by since the last time you did some self-destructive actions and when was the last day you felt miserable and hopeless or you thought your life is worthless?”
#3 Stop hating your self.
You are good enough, you’re tall enough, you’re pretty enough, you’re handsome enough, you’re sexy enough, you’re smart enough, you’re gifted enough, you’re amusing enough, you’re strong enough, you’re trustworthy enough, you’re collaborative enough, you’re creative enough, you’re friendly enough, you’re kind enough, you’re compassionate enough, you’re supportive enough, you’re lovable enough. You’re perfect exactly the way you are.
Why should I start loving myself?
What’s all the fuss about loving myself when I am going to lose my job, I’m broke or I’m going through a divorce or I must pass my final exam and I feel I can’t get over it. What loving myself has to do with all these problems?
That’s what people usually think or say because they believe loving themselves isn’t the real problem!
When you love your self every difficulty finds a simple solution — you wake up every day full of positive energy and your day welcomes great surprises and wonderful adventures, new acquaintances and new job opportunities and your financial situation starts to improve — everyone around starts loving and supporting you in a way you have never experienced before.
When you love your self and your neighbour all your world changes into a wonderful place to live. Love your self and your neighbours because it’s all a matter of “giving what you want in return”.
If you want to be loved give love. It’s the simple equation of the Universe.
I know it sounds too childish. I felt the same, too. And who knows me also acknowledges my cynicism.
It’s almost impossible to imagine, I know. That’s why there’s only one thing I want you to do to receive all this and more.
Just believe. Believe this is possible.
Believe in your self. Believe in the power of your self. Believe it. It’s true. Other people experienced this before and now they all share the same words:
One year ago I couldn’t imagine my world could be so amazing!
This article has been inspired by some books I’ve read or I’m reading at the moment, among which I must absolutely mention:
“Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He’ll Change” and “Why Me, Why This, Why Now?: A Guide to Answering Life’s Toughest Questions” both by Robin Norwood;
“You can heal your life” by Louise Hay;
“The power of now” by Eckhart Tolle;
“Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness” by Jon Kabat-Zinn whose book urged me to attend to MBSR course twice.
